Tag: imagination

  • The Importance of Never Outgrowing Wonder

    The Importance of Never Outgrowing Wonder

    When I was a kid, I walked a dirt road to the school bus stop each morning with my mom and my sister.

    One morning, I kicked a rusty can along the roadside while my mom and sister walked hand-in-hand behind me. Suddenly, Mom called out, “Susan, watch out!”

    I jumped back.

    She pointed to the ground.

    “Don’t step on those, honey! Those are fairy caps.”

    I looked down. Acorns covered the roadside. Some still wore their little caps. Others had lost them.

    Mom was right. They were exactly the right size for fairies.

    “Where are the fairies?” I asked.

    “They live over there, and sometimes they fly so fast that their hats fall off,” she said, pointing at the woods that fringed this dusty road, and continued walking.

    I slipped a fairy cap into my pocket and hurried to catch up.

    For years afterward, those tiny acorn caps became treasures. They inspired adventures in the woods, stories, and hours of imaginative play.

    Looking back, I realize my mom was giving me a gift that had very little to do with fairies. She was teaching me to see the world with wonder, perhaps without even knowing it.

    As my daughters were growing up, I shared the story of the fairy caps with them. Happily, they seemed to embrace the magic with me! We collected them on walks and tucked them into our pockets.

    Today, my girls are grown women. But every now and then, one of them will hand me a tiny acorn cap she found along a trail, a smile and sparkle in her eyes.

    No explanation needed. We both know exactly what it means.

    A small piece of childhood wonder has survived another generation.

    Recently, I ordered two books I have wanted to read. One is by Donald Winnicott, who wrote extensively about children, play, and emotional development. The other is Walden by Henry David Thoreau, a classic I somehow never got around to reading.

    When I clicked “Place Order,” I felt excited.

    The same thing happens when I wander through the library in Georgetown, DC, a favorite pastime. I never know what treasure might be waiting on a shelf. I love history, and this library is filled to the brim with it. 

    I felt it when I began writing my own stories and certainly when I published my first solo book.

    I feel it each time a new book launches into the world.

    There is something hopeful about opening a book for the first time. A sense that somewhere inside those pages may be a new idea, a new understanding, or a new hero.

    At nearly eighty years old, I still feel that excitement. And I’ve decided that’s a very good thing.

    As we grow older, it’s easy to believe that wonder belongs to children. We become busy. Practical. Responsible. We focus on obligations, schedules, and the endless stream of troubling news from the world around us.

    Yet I wonder if curiosity and imagination remain just as important in later life as they were in childhood. They sure are for me.

    Wonder invites us to keep learning. Curiosity encourages us to ask questions. Imagination helps us see possibilities where others see only limitations.

    Wonder reminds us that there is always more to discover.

    I think that’s one reason I enjoy spending time with children. They haven’t forgotten how to be amazed. A cardboard box becomes a playhouse. A pine tree becomes a secret fort. An acorn cap becomes evidence that fairies have passed by.

    The beautiful thing is that we don’t have to leave that way of seeing things entirely behind.

    We can still pause to notice a bird at the feeder or a squirrel up to mischief.

    We can still delight in learning something new.

    We can still carry a few fairy caps home in our pockets.

    The world can be hard at times. We all know that.

    But wonder keeps a small window open to beauty, possibility, and joy.

    I believe growing older does not require us to outgrow wonder. Maybe it’s asking us to protect it.

    And if I happen to spot a fairy cap along the path, you can count on it that I will probably pick it up.

  • Growing Up Too Fast…and Remembering How to Be Young

    Growing Up Too Fast…and Remembering How to Be Young

    People often say that children grow up too fast. Childhood seems endless while we are living it, yet when we look back across the years, it feels surprisingly brief. We are building forts out of refrigerator boxes, climbing trees, or inventing worlds no one else can see. Then, almost without noticing when the shift happened, we find ourselves carrying responsibilities, making decisions, and watching the next generation move through the same mysterious passage from childhood into adulthood. Yet the story is not quite that simple. Some children are asked to grow up sooner than they should, while others are given the precious gift of time to explore, imagine, and simply be young.

    And perhaps there is another truth hidden inside this familiar phrase. While children are busy growing up, many adults slowly forget how to remain young in the ways that matter most.

    I was reminded of this not by a memory from my own childhood, but by something my daughter did just recently. She has a small plot in a community garden near her home. The garden is gated, and within it, the individual plots are marked off with sturdy posts and chicken-wire fencing. A narrow path runs down the middle, allowing gardeners to access their garden beds.

    After a heavy snowstorm had passed, she walked over to her plot to get her shovel. The heavy snow had packed down into what people here were jokingly calling “snowcrete”—solid, slick, and surprisingly fast.

    She stood at the head of the path, bundled up in her parka, gloves, and knee-high boots. Enjoying the wintery scene and solitude, she suddenly had an idea.

    Grabbing a large piece of cardboard from a stack the gardeners use, she sat down on it, lifted the front edge with her hands, and launched herself downhill. The narrow path had turned into a perfect little luge run.

    Down she flew, laughing and yelping the whole way.

    At the bottom, she climbed back up the hill and did it again. And again. Five times, at least.

    Later, she sent me a short video she had filmed while racing down the path. Watching it, I assumed she must be somewhere high in the woods on a steep hill. But no—it was simply the quiet little garden path that leads to her vegetable plot, and my daughter, at fifty-five years old, was having the time of her life—utterly free, for a moment, from responsibility, productivity, and even good sense.

    Moments like this remind me that the child within us never fully disappears, if we’re lucky. And perhaps that gift begins with remembering how to protect it in ourselves.